I do not know what to say

Loss and setbacks have struck several members of our congregation recently. I could not help but think of Romans 12:15, which instructs us to “weep with those that weep.”  When we hear sad news, we often feel strained because we do not know what to say. Does the word of God provide any help in this area? Yes. The account of Job and his three friends contains many lessons that will help us know what to do and what not to do when around those dealing with loss.

Allow people to grieve

When Job lost his children and then his health, the scriptures show that his friends recognized Job’s heavy grief (Job 2:13). Those who are grieving need to be allowed to do so without people pumping them full of questions. We may genuinely want to understand what is wrong and help, but there will be plenty of time for that later. As caring people, we need to remember that although we share their sorrow, it still is THEIR sorrow!

Let your silence offer comfort

In the same verse we mentioned in our last point, it also states, “…and no one spoke a word to him.”  Silence can sometimes be enough because our presence speaks volumes. If there is ever a time one to apply James 1:19 in being slow to speak, it is when you are visiting someone who has suffered a great loss. Be available for them but do not overwhelm them.

Let your emotions show

Notice what Job’s friends did when they first saw him: “And when they raised their eyes from afar, and did not recognize him, they lifted their voices and wept,” (Job 2:12). While we should not overwhelm a person with questions, we do not need to remain completely silent either. If you feel genuine pain for another’s loss, you should show that. I am not suggesting that we are uncaring if we do not have streams of tears, but we can certainly show our concern. Genuine sympathy is appreciated.

Remember that the goal is to comfort

There was a purpose to Job’s friends getting together and coming to see Job: “For they had made an appointment together to come and mourn with him, and to comfort him,” (Job. 2:11).  Some people might feel it is best to ignore or avoid those who are hurting to respect their privacy. As Christians, the sorrows of our brethren are our business though.  We want to help them get through their trying times. The last thing we need to do is act childish and become bitter if feel that our kindness is not appreciated enough. If we do this, we have forgotten our primary goal of offering comfort.

Saying the wrong thing can be devastating

All three of Job’s friends eventually started to talk to Job, but what they had to say was wrong. They accused Job of bringing his calamities this on himself (Job. 4:7; 8:6-7; 11:13-15). At the end of the book, our God put those three men in their places: “My wrath is aroused against you…for you have not spoken of Me what is right, as My servant Job has,” (Job. 42:7). What a waste it is to think that you are offering comfort when instead you are truly causing harm! A friend of mine who preaches said he heard someone conduct a funeral and tell the grieving family that he knew exactly how they felt because he had a dog that died. Folks, we need to think carefully about what we say to those who are full of sorrow. Saying nothing is far better than saying the wrong thing.

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Do not believe everything you read

A couple of weeks ago, I taught a lesson about the life of Saul of Tarsus (later as Paul the apostle). The study pointed out how Saul left Judaism and began preaching the gospel of Christ (Acts 26:1-11). During Paul’s missionary journeys, people were being converted to Christ and local churches were established (Acts 15:36).

Pretend that you once practiced Judaism with Saul. How would you react if you heard that he started teaching the things he previously spoke against (Acts 9:1-2)? Unless you were willing to leave Judaism yourself, you would not have much good to say about him anymore. You would likely do what you could to discredit him. After all, you would not tell people, “Saul found the truth and left us.”

In the sermon, I asked the audience to imagine what people (especially Jews) would say about Saul online if the Internet existed in the first century. People would call him a false teacher. There would be all kinds of false accusations flying around. People would claim that Paul taught things not lawful (Acts 16:21), that he attempted to profane the temple (Acts 24:6) and that he spoke against the law and Caesar (Acts 25:8).

All these accusations against Paul are not true. Too many people are quick to believe lies though, especially concerning religious matters. If all these things were circulated over the Internet, Paul would find himself saying something modern Christians often have to say – do not believe everything you read!

When you search for “the beginning of the church of Christ” online, you will read over and over that Alexander Campbell started the church. Alexander Campbell left the Baptist church and his father, Thomas Campbell, left the Presbyterian church. Obviously, both denominations will be critical of these men, so we must be mindful of what we read. Like Saul leaving the Jews to teach the gospel of Christ, no Baptist or Presbyterian will say, “Those Campbells left because they found the truth.”

When Paul left Judaism, he did not start his own church. The same is true of the Campbell’s – they were not seeking to start their own church. I am not suggesting that nobody has ever left a denomination with the intent to start their own. That has absolutely happened in the past and continues to happen today. Just like Paul though, people can leave a false group and begin following the Lord without any manmade creeds or teachings. This is what the Campbells sought.

When teachers preach the truth, people can be converted to Christ (Acts 9:19-20; 18:1-8). When this happens, local churches can be established. But whose churches are these? They must be the church that Christ built with His own blood, the church that the Lord’s people belong to (Matt. 16:18; Acts 20:28; Acts 2:47). Anything else is a denomination. A church only belongs to Christ if it teaches the doctrine of Christ and recognizes Him as its head (II John 9; Col. 1:18).

Over the last few hundred years, some people who attended faithful churches of Christ were called Campbellites. This label is wrong because Christians do not follow Campbell, only Christ. Sadly, this is not a new problem. Consider the example found in 1 Corinthians. Some converts called themselves after Paul (verse 12). Whether a person called themselves a “Paul-ite” or was labeled a “Paul-ite” by others, Paul clearly taught that this was wrong (verse 13). Everyone Paul converted in the first century was converted to Christ, just as Campbell’s converts were in the 1800s or modern converts are today.

With so much false information floating around online, Christians must encourage people to open their Bibles and verify claims they hear. Confusion can be cleared up! Let’s compare what we have discussed with the origins of other denominations.

In the year 1536 AD, John Calvin began the Presbyterian church. In 1607, John Smythe started the Baptist church. Did these men get back to the gospel and encourage people to simply be Christians in the Lord’s church like we read about in the New Testament? If this was their intent, something went wrong.

Were there Presbyterians before 1536 AD? Were there any Baptists prior to 1607 AD? Most importantly, where do you read of those groups in the Bible? Both denominations were started by men, meaning they are man-made religions. They taught some Biblical truth, but they also mixed in many of their own doctrines. Recall how Paul consciously avoided creating his own sect. He did this because Christ had already established His church. This why Paul called them churches of Christ (Rom. 16:16).

Could a church of Christ become a man-made church? Of course! The group’s name might be scriptural, but they could still teach man-made doctrines. Consider the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (Mormons). Joseph Smith started that group in 1830 AD. The Lord’s church was started in approximately 33 AD. Any group claiming origins after that year has a fundamental problem.

When you read the New Testament, you will find letters written to churches of our Lord. Some of these letters describe improper things the churches were doing and needed to repent of (Rev. 2-3). This shows that just having a scriptural name is not enough – your religious group must recognize that Christ has ALL the authority and that all of His doctrine must be followed (II John 9).  If your group does not have a scriptural name though, something is wrong from the start – think about it!

Chuck

Do bad attitudes condemn?

Nobody likes social drama, yet it is all around us. How does God feel about it through? Can a brother or sister lose their salvation for harboring ill feelings towards another member of the church? Rather than making any assumptions about what is and is not acceptable to God, let’s just see what He says in His word.

As we examine this subject, please keep in mind we are dealing with attitudes and matters of the heart. Our God knows what is truly in our hearts (II Cor. 11:13-15). All of the following can divide Christians and are unacceptable to Him:

• Treating others in an ungodly manner
• Pretending to be godly when we are filled with envy, jealousy and hatred
• Harboring bad feelings toward someone and avoiding speaking to them

We often find ways to blame others for our bad attitudes. “After all, if someone didn’t do things to make me feel jealous, I wouldn’t feel this way.” It might feel like we are less guilty if we can point out the error of someone else, but sin is still sin. If someone wronged us and we reacted poorly, both parties are guilty (Titus 3:3; James 3:14).

We are guilty even if we do not overtly do anything – cursing, lashing out, etc. as Christians are accountable for their thoughts. (Heb. 4:12-13). Is anyone’s soul really in jeopardy due a bad attitude? Consider these Biblical examples of people who were rebuked for their attitudes:

Diotrephes (III John 9-10)

Diotrephes had more than a bad attitude – he sinfully acted on it by kicking Christians out of a local church and seeking prominence for himself. That desire for prominence – a bad attitude – was the root cause for all of this sin. Even if he never refused John and never put others out of the church, the attitude itself was wrong. The actions of Diotrephes make this obvious. Remember the teaching of Christ: “By their fruits you shall know them” (Matt. 7:16).

Martha (Luke 10:38-42)

I am not suggesting that, in the end, Martha was lost. However, she was sufficiently upset with Mary to suggest that the Lord rebuke Mary. If someone wanted to take Martha’s side, they might say that Mary caused Martha to feel this way. This is why this article was written. Brethren often feel that it is not their fault when they have bad thoughts.  Evil thinking causes people to think, “They are doing that on purpose”, or “They are doing that just to get under my skin.” It may or may not be true, but we are still responsible for how we react!

The elder brother (Luke 15:25-32)

 The story of the prodigal son ends well for the prodigal but less happily for his brother. We might think that everything was fine with the elder brother until his younger brother came home. Not so. If our righteousness only lasts until someone crosses us up, then we are living a lie. If I only appreciate you when I get more attention than you, then how genuine is my faith? This elder brother needed an attitude adjustment. He was upset with his brother and also his father. Now we see how the guilty want to blame others for their disposition.

There is no question that a bad attitude can and will cost people their souls. Let us be mindful of this danger and do what we must to control what we think. After all, out of the heart proceeds many evils (Mark 7:20-23). Beware!

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Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever

You may have recognized the title from Hebrews 13:8. This is a great statement and worthy of examination. What did the inspired writer of Hebrews mean by stating that Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever? Here are some valuable lessons to learn:

Jesus has not changed

In a world where technology changes faster than we can keep up, the Lord is a constant. He was our Savior yesterday, He is our Savior today and He will continue to be our Savior in the future (Phil. 3:20). Because Christ continues to be the way and the truth and the life, the way unto the Father will never change (John 14:6). Other “prophets” might wrongly teach other paths, but Jesus remains the same!

Jesus’ authority has not changed

Relating to our previous point, Christ has all authority (Matt. 28:18) and will continue to do so. The Father cried out from heaven that we are to listen to His Son (Matt. 17:5). Whatever was done yesterday, is done today and will be done in the future must be by the authority of Christ (Col. 3:17). This power is as much in effect today as it was after His death – the authority does not pass away with time. Recall that the Hebrew writer started off his book by stating that the Father has spoken unto us by His Son in these last days (Heb. 1:2).

Jesus’ words have not changed

The passing of time will never mean that the Lord’s words need to be updated. Jesus Himself told His followers that they would be guided into all truth (John 16:13). This statement assures us that we have all we need – no additional truth needs to be delivered. Moreover, these delivered words of Christ that were here yesterday, today and forever are the words by which we will all judged (John 12:48). As followers of Christ, we should be encouraged by this consistency. We need to value and remember that fact that our Lord and Savior is the same yesterday, today and forever.                                                                

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How to view grace as a gift

For many religious people, it is a real struggle to hear that man must do something to obtain the free gift (Rom. 5:18). How can something be “free” and yet we must do something to obtain it? Let us allow God to explain it. In Luke 17:10, Jesus said that if one does everything that was commanded them; they should still say they are an unprofitable servant and that they have only done their duty.

Christ’s gift is so great that no amount of service for the Lord will equal what Jesus did for us. Consider this illustration: A teacher is holding a briefcase at the front of the classroom. The briefcase contains a million dollars. The teacher calls your name and says that if you walk to the front and ask nicely, you will be given the money. If you follow these instructions, do you believe that you earned the money? Those who believe they earned the money by simply walking up and asking politely will struggle to understand God’s grace.

Nobody is so important that they deserve a million dollars by simply walking to the front of a classroom. Now consider again the sacrifice that Christ made: no amount of service on earth will equal Christ’s sacrifice for those in sin. Remember, if we do not obey the gospel (II Thess. 1:8), God’s grace will not save us. Why not? The student who does not walk to the front of the classroom will not get the money, and Christians will not find salvation if they do not do His will.

The brethren at Ephesus were told that the gift (salvation) cannot be obtained by works because grace would then no longer exist. Works alone cannot save anyone. The nicest person in this world, the best husband, the best wife and the most loyal friend all have one thing in common – they have all sinned (Rom. 3:23) and all need a Savior to have those sins remitted (Matt. 26:28). This is why we are saved by grace through faith (Eph. 2:8). Just like faith without works is dead (James 2:26), works without faith is useless (Eph. 2:9).

Do not allow confusion about God’s grace to cause you to miss out. Though it is for everyone, not everyone will obtain it (Matt. 7:21-23).

                                                                                       Chuck